My Secret to Becoming Better at Adulting


I recently turned 29 and every single day I have a mini panic attack about how I have to get my act together before I turn 30. Taking an outside look at my life, I am doing pretty well. I'm married to an awesome guy, have 2 kids and a dog, and run a semi-successful business that allows me to stay home with my kids during the day. While I've accomplished things and have everything I could ever have wanted in life up to this point (seriously, Glory to God here), I still fear I'm not adulting to my fullest potential. Yet.

Quarterly Habit Check

I am the type of person who realizes one day that I suck at life and then proceed to write down a list of all of the habits I will start tomorrow to be a better person. Then in the wake of the new day, I forget it all. I'm a list maker, but the lists are so long and so different from my current lifestyle, that it is not sustainable (especially since I never implement any of my new habits or schedules). 

Since January, I have decided to give myself one new habit to start every quarter. Not Every day. Not every week. Not even every month. Every Quarter. That's every 3 months. This was a principle introduced to me by success coach, Jack Canfield. I mean, not personally introduced...I read his book, and it was in there. There are a lot of great principles in his book (heck it's called, "Success Principles"), but this one was particularly helpful for an over-dreamer and under-achiever like me. It helps break down my good intentions into bite size pieces. Instead of setting a super high bar for myself, I set a low one and actually achieve it.

First Quarter Habit: Clean-ish Eating

January I focused on "Eating to Live and not Living to Eat" as my first quarterly goal. This was super important as I was struggling to lose my baby weight and I ate pizza like 3 times a week because I love it. I took it day by day and allowed myself some cheats, but over all since January, I have been eating clean and lean about 80% of the time and it feels amazing. 

Second Quarter Habit: Daily Exercise

In April, I committed to regular exercise, which is something I'd never done before. I didn't give myself a certain amount of time I needed to exercise or a certain type of exercise, just that I needed to exercise regularly. Mostly it's been just going for walks since we've had a beautiful spring and summer so far. Some days I just make it around the block, while other days I walk 5+ miles. I put the kids in the stroller, turn on a podcast and head out. If it's raining, I go to the gym for a yoga class or to go in the weight room and pretend I know what I'm doing. For those days where I just don't want to make the time, I have a kettle bell in my hall closet and I do kettle bell swings for a couple minutes. May I mention my booty is looking fabulous from just this exercise?

What will my third quarter habit be? 

Now, with July only 2 days away, I am going to implement one of the most challenging habits that I want to carry through the rest of my life. Waking up early. I currently roll out of bed somewhere between 6:30-7:00 when my kids are waking and ready for me to satisfy all of their hopes and dreams. The result is that I wake up frazzled and already behind in the day. I am going develop the habit of waking up at 5:00 am (AHHHHHH! SO EARLY) so that I can spend time reading my Bible and Praying, reading the news, drinking coffee in a quiet house and have a chance to wrap my mind around the day before it starts. Doesn't that sound amazing? It does. 

Why do I share this with you?

  1. Because it has been a really amazing principle for helping a scatterbrained over-dreamer actually start becoming a better person. Slow and steady wins the race, people. 
  2. I honestly need accountability, especially with this third quarter goal. I will be updating my progress on Instagram.
  3. I want you to do this with me. Seriously! Let's develop better habits together. Maybe you want to start waking up earlier like me. Maybe you want to read a chapter of nonfiction every day. Maybe you want to do a plank-a-day. Whatever it is, pick out one habit. ONLY ONE HABIT. This is super important in making this work. Trying to develop a gazillion habits all at once is not sustainable. If you want to make real change in your life, you have to take it slow and steady. 

What habit are you going to develop this quarter? Tell me in the comments and follow me on instagram @mommingishard.

I will be posting my progress over there, and I would love for you to keep me posted on your progress in the comments on my daily instagrams.